Hey, it's good to be back again on blogger. I'm sorry about the break, been busy trying to justify my pay check. Hope your day's going well? I'm going to tell the gist i promised in my last post and i hope it lightens up your day. Enjoy.
Flipping through the colourful pages of a gloss-mag a couple of weeks ago, I stumbled on an article relating the fool’s day game some real persons played on April 1st the previous year. An entertaining read I must say but I was particularly perplexed by the account of a lady who connived with her friend to “test” her fiancés professed love with an anonymous SMS from a faked old flame, in the name of April fool.
Now this joke was supposed to be fun and I imagine that in the thrill of the moment, all that my dear missy anticipated was hearty laughters over her ‘smartness’. But no. Things went rather sourly. The SMS’s and calls between her friend and her fiancé won’t stop and by the time she knew what was happening, the joke was on her; her friend had taken her fiancé of three years.
And I ask what in the world my missy was thinking? What had she aimed to achieve with her sort of April fool’s game? Whatever happened to humorous pranks about aliens on our streets, lottery winnings and all? I mean since when did April fool’s day become lovers test day? And then, why didn’t she call it off before noon as traditional? Wasn’t carrying it over for days over stretching it? Arguably, relationships need the fun and the testing but why take that sort of risk?
I know someone who once pulled a slightly similar joke on her fiancé but ended up in regret. According to her, after a rather long hesitant pause that day, she had apologized for what she was about to say and finally and quite mournfully, informed him of her intension to get married to someone else that weekend. And to her disappointment, he rather asked a few questions and wished her luck. Just like that. If he was angry or pained, there was no indication. So she was mystified, and angry. It wasn’t funny that he could so easily give up on her; at least she expected a desperate plea or something from him instead of the calmness he portrayed. But they loved each other and had a great relationship going so she sulkily (tail between legs) accepted his excuse that he had not bothered to try to talk her out of her faked decision because he thought they’d been through so much together that she should know what she wanted, and so if she wanted out, he was inclined to respect her decision. Apparently, this young man like many others, was not the type for such games. In fact he’d expressed some annoyance over her joking with their lives and she regrets it. The good news though, is thankfully they’re walking up the aisle shortly.
It’s probable that this account is one in about ten that’s not a tragedy. The point is to not take coals of fire in-between your legs if you do not want to be burnt. Why punish yourself with the aroma from the Johnson’s kitchen when you cannot audibly wish them good morning? While these “tests” may be revealing, the question isn’t so much as how much good it does, but how ready you are for the likely shock that follows? I mean, what if he or she disappoints you?
Only a foolish builder starts building his tower without sufficient resources. No general goes to war without considering his force of arms either! If I’m not mistaken, the relationship already has its problems (that’s probably why you want to pull such a joke in the first place), why encumber it more? You know, sleeping dogs are indeed better left lying. That it worked for A doesn’t mean it will give you the same result unless you two are in every way symmetrical.
Besides, this ‘test’ isn’t infallible. Even a polygraph lacks the needed accuracy; it failed to trap double-agent Aldrich Ames even though he took it twice while spying for the Soviet Union. Same with other known spies like Karl Koecher and Ana Belen Montes. When it comes to relationship, I doubt the end justifies the means. I really do.
The true test of love and faithfulness in a relationship is the ability to wade through real tough times and come out together, standing. Not the ability to ignore a fake SMS or phone call. And we cannot determine this fact correctly without God, the owner of our lives and the only one that truly knows us all inside out, even much more than we know ourselves. Not only did He form us and knew us from our mother’s womb [Jeremiah 1:5a, Psalm 139:16], from His throne above, He watches over our affairs [Psalm 94:4], knowing our beginning and our ending “All the days ordained for me were recorded in your scroll before one of them came into existence” [Psalm 139:16]. He alone can reveal our partners to us and help us genuinely trust them.
Perhaps we need to reconsider the word ‘Trust’.
To trust someone means to have faith or confidence in them; to depend or rely on them, mostly without verification. We truly trust people when regardless of what our friends and loved ones think, we deal with them as we know them and take them for who they themselves say they are. And time and over again, I have learnt to not judge people on the basis of what others say. Now, this is not to disregard caution but to at least give our friends the benefit of the doubt.
Many times, we reassure our partners we trust them, at least to inspire them or something even when we really don’t, and it works right? Now imagine the magic you’ll get when your trust is genuine. Food for thought maybe. The point is we must trust our partners to stick with us through thick and thing i.e. even in the face of an appealing affair.
So dear, if you're considering staging this sort of joke , common sense says call it off prematurely the minute you realize it is slipping. Don’t be tempted into thinking that you could be missing out on an opportunity to see his ‘true colours’. God alone knows his 'true colours'. If you call your joke off, not only would you have saved your relationship, you will come through as someone who really wants to remain in it and the Lord will help you. Have a fabulous April fool's day!
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. Proverbs 3:5
Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge. Psalm 62:8
Flipping through the colourful pages of a gloss-mag a couple of weeks ago, I stumbled on an article relating the fool’s day game some real persons played on April 1st the previous year. An entertaining read I must say but I was particularly perplexed by the account of a lady who connived with her friend to “test” her fiancés professed love with an anonymous SMS from a faked old flame, in the name of April fool.
Now this joke was supposed to be fun and I imagine that in the thrill of the moment, all that my dear missy anticipated was hearty laughters over her ‘smartness’. But no. Things went rather sourly. The SMS’s and calls between her friend and her fiancé won’t stop and by the time she knew what was happening, the joke was on her; her friend had taken her fiancé of three years.
And I ask what in the world my missy was thinking? What had she aimed to achieve with her sort of April fool’s game? Whatever happened to humorous pranks about aliens on our streets, lottery winnings and all? I mean since when did April fool’s day become lovers test day? And then, why didn’t she call it off before noon as traditional? Wasn’t carrying it over for days over stretching it? Arguably, relationships need the fun and the testing but why take that sort of risk?
I know someone who once pulled a slightly similar joke on her fiancé but ended up in regret. According to her, after a rather long hesitant pause that day, she had apologized for what she was about to say and finally and quite mournfully, informed him of her intension to get married to someone else that weekend. And to her disappointment, he rather asked a few questions and wished her luck. Just like that. If he was angry or pained, there was no indication. So she was mystified, and angry. It wasn’t funny that he could so easily give up on her; at least she expected a desperate plea or something from him instead of the calmness he portrayed. But they loved each other and had a great relationship going so she sulkily (tail between legs) accepted his excuse that he had not bothered to try to talk her out of her faked decision because he thought they’d been through so much together that she should know what she wanted, and so if she wanted out, he was inclined to respect her decision. Apparently, this young man like many others, was not the type for such games. In fact he’d expressed some annoyance over her joking with their lives and she regrets it. The good news though, is thankfully they’re walking up the aisle shortly.
It’s probable that this account is one in about ten that’s not a tragedy. The point is to not take coals of fire in-between your legs if you do not want to be burnt. Why punish yourself with the aroma from the Johnson’s kitchen when you cannot audibly wish them good morning? While these “tests” may be revealing, the question isn’t so much as how much good it does, but how ready you are for the likely shock that follows? I mean, what if he or she disappoints you?
Only a foolish builder starts building his tower without sufficient resources. No general goes to war without considering his force of arms either! If I’m not mistaken, the relationship already has its problems (that’s probably why you want to pull such a joke in the first place), why encumber it more? You know, sleeping dogs are indeed better left lying. That it worked for A doesn’t mean it will give you the same result unless you two are in every way symmetrical.
Besides, this ‘test’ isn’t infallible. Even a polygraph lacks the needed accuracy; it failed to trap double-agent Aldrich Ames even though he took it twice while spying for the Soviet Union. Same with other known spies like Karl Koecher and Ana Belen Montes. When it comes to relationship, I doubt the end justifies the means. I really do.
The true test of love and faithfulness in a relationship is the ability to wade through real tough times and come out together, standing. Not the ability to ignore a fake SMS or phone call. And we cannot determine this fact correctly without God, the owner of our lives and the only one that truly knows us all inside out, even much more than we know ourselves. Not only did He form us and knew us from our mother’s womb [Jeremiah 1:5a, Psalm 139:16], from His throne above, He watches over our affairs [Psalm 94:4], knowing our beginning and our ending “All the days ordained for me were recorded in your scroll before one of them came into existence” [Psalm 139:16]. He alone can reveal our partners to us and help us genuinely trust them.
Perhaps we need to reconsider the word ‘Trust’.
To trust someone means to have faith or confidence in them; to depend or rely on them, mostly without verification. We truly trust people when regardless of what our friends and loved ones think, we deal with them as we know them and take them for who they themselves say they are. And time and over again, I have learnt to not judge people on the basis of what others say. Now, this is not to disregard caution but to at least give our friends the benefit of the doubt.
Many times, we reassure our partners we trust them, at least to inspire them or something even when we really don’t, and it works right? Now imagine the magic you’ll get when your trust is genuine. Food for thought maybe. The point is we must trust our partners to stick with us through thick and thing i.e. even in the face of an appealing affair.
So dear, if you're considering staging this sort of joke , common sense says call it off prematurely the minute you realize it is slipping. Don’t be tempted into thinking that you could be missing out on an opportunity to see his ‘true colours’. God alone knows his 'true colours'. If you call your joke off, not only would you have saved your relationship, you will come through as someone who really wants to remain in it and the Lord will help you. Have a fabulous April fool's day!
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. Proverbs 3:5
Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge. Psalm 62:8
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hmm......nice one there!
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